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So now hopefully, you know your body type. Here comes a really, super important step – self acceptance. Your body type can change with weight gain and weight loss, but if you are currently at a healthy weight/ body fat percentage, chances are your body type is what it is and it’s not going to change, and no matter what you are, that is absolutely ok. In too many guides, I’ve seen one or another body type branded as the “ideal body type”, with the author often adding a “congratulations!” to those who happen to fall into that category. With no offense meant to said authors, I hate this kind of thinking. It is self destructive and it is not body positive.

When exploring fashion it is necessary to have a a positive attitude towards your body. This does not mean you have to love every part of your appearance and emphasise everything about your looks, but it does mean you should be realistic with yourself about how you look, and then accept that no matter what shape your body (or face, or hair, etc) takes, there are ways to flatter it, and equally, there are styles that will look absolutely great on other people and terrible on you. This is not because there is anything wrong with you – it’s the style of clothing that is the problem. Too many times do people (particularly women) attempt to change their bodies to try and make a certain style look better. You should always be asking yourself what your clothes are doing for you. You are the person. Your clothes, however fabulous, are just things, and in the best scenario, tools of empowerment. The take-home message of this segment is this: whenever a style or garment makes you feel bad about yourself or your body, it is failing to do it’s job for you.

I will be talking more about which styles suit different body shapes in part 5, but for now, onto part 4.